Making a Hard Decision Easily
“The doors open and close each day they decide the lives we live.” ~ Flora Whittemore
I’ve been running this site for almost two years. A few months ago, I met a goal I set for myself: I deleted most of my other self-employment, and I focused my energy on Tiny Buddha.
They do not require much money to live, and since my e-book has been selling regularly-I was able to transition into spring. As a result, I decreased my workload dramatically.
Now that I have more time, I realize that I have to find a sense of purpose beyond writing and editing, not only through hobbies and fun. In essence, I have to find new ways to contribute to the world, regardless of income it generates, because I crave a greater sense of connection and commitment-outside the world of the web.
Last week, I received an offer to run a ‘website interpolation, hours of part-time work. My first paid gig was written for a ‘tween magazine, in 2006. This was significant for me, not only because I have fulfilled the dream of seeing my signature in print, but because I understand how difficult it is to have that age.
Many of my problems began in high school, when I was chubby, overdeveloped, harassed, and even abused by other children. Because the weather was so traumatic for me, I delight in the opportunity to talk to girls who have difficulty loving themselves.
This leaves me with a difficult decision to make: Do I hear instinct tells me to try to help young? Or I listen to my instinct tells me to stay off when I’m not working on Tiny Buddha?
I do what is natural for me, what I have done through various sites in the past five years, and I continue to analyze, advise and help online? Or do I step outside the world of the written word, in a way I have yet to define, to see where it may lead?
One seems to involve a lot more certainty. Surely I am writing made for girls (and the extra money does not hurt). But I also feel frustrated that I am continuing likely spend so much time alone in my computer.
The other revolves around a million unknowns. What’s next if it is not online? How to choose one of the many ideas that I have, and how I can pull it off? How do I know what I will work, and if not, you will not regret not go in reverse?
The answer is no, can not, and will not. We can never know for sure when we make a decision that will be a success as expected. All we can do is follow our call louder, and then trust that whatever the future holds, enrich our lives, one way or another.
Since I’ve been struggling with career-related decisions recently, I turned to the page Tiny Buddha Facebook and asked the community, “How is a difficult decision made?” I collected some of the answers that resonated with me more strongly:
(Note: I changed “I” to “you” in these contributions and the names attributed to Facebook readers.)
1. Consider whether or not going to be able to look in the mirror with pride the next day. Marcia Jones
2. reflect on the past difficult decisions and how they are made. The problems do not have to be similar to the method to work it. Harvey Gentry
3. Meditate and listen to your instincts. ~ Stacey Chandler
4. Meditate on how it affects the balance within your life. Then faith and the will to carry out the action. guests -Isaac
5. Set aside time to carefully consider the decision. The worst thing you can do is act in haste. Dana David
6. Ask yourself: “Who is going to affect and what my heart told me?” McBride -Phyllis Molhusen
7. Imagine having made the decision. If you get a sense of relief, that is the way to go, even if coupled with sadness. Emma gold
8. Ask yourself, “What is the most pleasant option, and where is the fun?” David Heisler
9. Check with your internal compass. How will you feel if you make a decision? How will you feel if done the other? -Kyczy Hawk
10. make mistakes and learn from them. Sandra Leigh
11. Talk through with friends. Then, having gathered as much information as possible, decide and act! Charlene wood
12. Make a patient effort and have self-confidence as a decision maker. Whatever choice you make it is valid, as you can gain experience and wisdom through any experience, preferred or not. Le -Meagan Daga
13. freedom from fear. They know that there is no “right” or “wrong” decision. Any decision is better than indecision -Deidre Americo
14. Ask yourself three questions before diving into something new or daunting: What’s the worst that can happen? How likely is this to happen? Can you deal with it? -Long Ho
15. Go with your first instinct. At the moment second guess yourself or doubt your choice, and then everything goes downhill from there. Kelsey Walsh
16. Take a moment to think about the consequences of each course of action, and decide which course is best for everyone. Daniel Roy
17. Try to see the situation from all angles. Also ask their elders for advice. They are always great sources! Sometimes you need to get away from the question a bit, then come back for a new look. Lisa Marie Josey
18. Remember this quote: “The choices are equally likely, so are all the others.” Paulina Angelique
19. If you find that you have to talk about something, usually it is a bad decision. Good decisions usually feel good without much second-guessing. Avis -Triana
20. One method is to contemplate options and select the one that you feel a sense of excitement for. Katherine Melo Sipe
21. “Remain in tension” as long as possible. If neither option feels good, try to delay making the decision. Sometimes a third option had not thought of before becomes open. Jody Bower
22. Listen to your emotional instinct. If it feels good, truly good, then go for it. Failure to use caution and back away. -Dedric Carroll
23. ask yourself two questions: Is this a good choice for me? This choice is good for my family? Then listen to what your heart says. Andrew J. Kelley
24. Make decisions with small head and large with his heart. Keith -emily
25. Take a step back and try to stop thinking so much. Liz Morton
26. Take two sheets of paper and write your choices in each. Put them in a hat, close your eyes and pick one. If you feel disappointed with the result, then you know it is the wrong decision to make! -Dina Agnessi-Lorenzetti
27. reflect on my past decisions. Good or bad, each teaches a lesson. To learn by your mistakes is key, but do not forget his triumphs. They are so important. Mick Roman
28. Think about how you will feel when you’re 70. First, it will make the difficult decision perspective (perhaps not as much as you think it is) and secondly, that will help you make a good decision for the long term, rather than just immediate gratification. The Andrew Gills
29. Have a good look, deep, who does not judge what is inside you, and it also helps daily. Perry -Indigo
30. align their actions with their life purpose and personal values, and then it is much easier to know the direction that is right for you. The prerequisite for this is actually know and define yourself. Awareness. Be true to who you really are. Follow the path of least resistance. -Self Improvement Saga