Reading Body Language of Anyone Easily
Body language is a very important part of how we communicate with others. However, most of us have only an intuitive understanding of non-verbal communication at best. Fortunately, if the reading of body language does not come naturally to you, or if you just want to get better and better, there is a huge body of work detailing what the body is saying.
Read body language through / Lens Discomfort Comfort
For many people, immersed in the world of body language causes the same reaction. “Finally, I learned how to be a human lie detector” It is difficult to blame anyone for the momentum, However, contrary to what we like to think Cal Lightman, you can not say exactly how a person feels just because your lip moved or folded his arms. what you can do is measure how a person feels comfortable. this spectrum comfort / discomfort is much more important than trying to identify a specific phrase or guess a particular thought in someone’s head.
As Joe Navarro, a former FBI interrogator and an expert on the analysis of body language and research explains in his book that everybody says:
Those who lie or are guilty and should bring knowledge of their lies and / or crimes they have difficulties to ensure the comfort and stress and anxiety can be easily observed. The attempt to hide his guilt or deception instead a very difficult cognitive load on them as they struggle for answers to what would otherwise be simple questions (DePaulo et al., 1985, 323-370). If a person is more comfortable talking to us, the easier it is to detect non-verbal criticism of the discomfort associated with deception. Its purpose is to establish a high comfort during the first part of any interaction or during the “relationship building.” This helps establish a baseline of behavior during the period in which the person is deemed not to feel threatened.
While he describes this dynamic in the context of lie detection, it is the lens through which you can interpret any body language. If you’re at a party and everyone is themselves, a person in a wheelchair enjoying with arms crossed and head down the stand. They may seem uncomfortable and you may be wondering if there is something out of the ordinary. In response, you can ask if something is wrong. The same set of actions observed someone in a hospital waiting room would be much less abnormal. Even if the person does not have to worry about anything, hospitals can make people uncomfortable or nervous. Ask that person what is wrong could easily lead to the very obvious reaction. “I’m in a hospital”
Noting how comfortable a person is in a particular context can give you clues on how they feel. If you’re on a first date and your partner seems comfortable, you probably are! If you conduct a job interview and the applicant seems comfortable and safe during the process, but becomes nervous and agitated when asked if they have stolen from previous employers, it could be something to ask more. Body language is not an exact science, but measure the levels of comfort that can give clues to what actually happens in the minds of people around him.
Cues from the base body to monitor
Most of our body parts quietly communicate what we feel and what we want, we realize it or not. The following are signs that you can look at to get an idea of how a person feels but consider the paradigm of comfort / discomfort. behavior Nobody tells the whole story.
Head and face
The first thing to understand about trying to read facial expressions is that they are not always the most honest. Let’s get to what body part is the most honest later, but we are trained from a very young age that certain expressions and face the shares are appropriate for certain occasions, whether we feel it or not. However, there are still some signs can be extracted facial expressions.
One of the easiest to learn about (although still one of the most difficult to identify accurately) is the “fake smile”. As the blog of Paul Ekman International (named for the pioneer in analyzing facial expression Paul Ekman) explains, false smiles class to do it because it is assumed that is most often done with just the mouth. We raise the corners of the mouth smile. Much less of us are aware of how our eyes are involved in a kind smile. In a real smile, our eyebrows, eyelids, and sometimes even our whole head arrive, with the corners of the mouth. This test can help BBC to try your hand at the real number of fake smiles.
pursed lips are another way to tell when someone is drifting to one side of the discomfort of the spectrum. This is a favorite expression analyst like to point out every time a politician is to give a kind of confession. In cases like Anthony Weiner and confession speech Eliot Spitzer, the two can be seen pressing his lips pursed to the point that almost disappears.
These are just a couple of easy to identify facial gestures, you can know a little more about what the feeling of a person, but there are so many different variations that face itself has its own system of coding for measuring all. And, as we said, the face is not always the most honest part of the body, which is why it is important to give the same (or more) attention to the rest of the body.
Our arms are used for self-term large extent. Many individual actions can be taught or the formation of us in time (for example, “does not point to the people”), but there are two most useful aspects of movement of the arms and hands to observe the amount of space they occupy, and how they reach the level.
actions that defy gravity throughout the body, are generally considered positive. When we are happy, excited or interested, we raise our heads or our chin arms, even legs and feet begin to point to the sky or bounce if we sit. The arms are strong incredibly versatile this behavior. As Navarro said again:
When excited, we do not limit our arm movements; in fact, our natural tendency is to defy gravity and increase your overheads weapons. When people are really full of energy and happy, his arm movements defy gravity. As mentioned above, the behaviors that defy gravity are associated with positive feelings. When a person feels good or trust, his arms swinging affirmative, such as walking. He is the person who holds the insecurity unconsciously his arms, apparently unable to challenge the weight of gravity.
Frankly, say a colleague of a radical and costly mistake you make only at work and the shoulders and arms down and sink rot. Have you ever had to “sinking feeling”? It is a limbic response to an adverse event. Negative emotions lead us down physically. Not only are these limbic honest answers, but they occur in real time. Make the jump, and put his arms in the air when the goal is scored or shoulders and arms when a sink arbitrator rules against us. These behaviors severity communicate emotions accurately and at the right time are affected. In addition, these physical manifestations can be contagious, whether in a football stadium, a rock concert or a gathering of great friends.
gestures individual hand may be useful for the thoughts of conscious communication, as a coach speaks in a nonverbal code to a player on the field, but when it comes to measuring the level of subconscious mood or comfort a person, gravity is where it is.
Our torso includes the shoulders, chest and stomach are very vital for our survival. That’s where our bodies live! As such, we are very well trained to protect this part of our body instinctively. Even in regular social environments, we protect our chest. More importantly, we allow access to our chest when we are at ease:
These torso screens that reflect the need for distance and avoid the limbic brain are very good indicators of true feelings. When a person in a relationship feels that something is wrong with the way of things, he or she is more likely to detect a subtle degree of physical distance from your partner. Distance can also take the form of what I call the ventral denial. Our ventral (front), where the eyes, mouth, chest, breasts, genitals, etc., is very sensitive to things we like and no. When things go well, we expose our ventral what we are for, including those that make us feel good. When things go wrong, relationships change, or even when the questions disadvantage, participating in the ventral denial, move or turn discussed. The ventral part is the most vulnerable part of the body so that the limbic brain has an inherent ability to protect shock or disturb the things we need. That’s why, for example, begin immediately and unconsciously turn slightly to one side when someone not likes us on us at the party. When it comes to the court, an increase of ventral denial is one of the best indicators that the relationship is in trouble.
This behavior of any action or refuse the ventral side of the people can more easily be seen in a context of dating or romantic. At the beginning of a relationship, often a joint angle of your torso toward your partner away. They turn to them when they enter a room or learn while sitting side by side.
Part of the reason we do this because when we are at ease, our limbic system down their defenses. Protector denies access to our chest when we’re on unpleasant things. Of course, the opposite is usually true. If we let easily open the chest and abdomen, even pointing to them voluntarily to a person, it probably means that you are happy and confident with what is happening.
If I had to guess which body part is the most honest, most people would say is maybe the eyes or the entire face. In fact, we are far. The legs and feet, Navarro suggests, is where true honesty. After all, we are trained in most of our lives to smile for the camera, stop making faces and pretending to have a good time. However, millions of years of evolution have taught us that the legs have to be ready to flee.
A key way to detect the intention of the leg is remarkable in the feet and legs pointing. Similar to the way we signal our chests way our legs tend to lean or point in the direction of where we were going or what interests us most:
When two people talk to each other, they usually speak face to face. However, if one of your people to a few feet away or becomes repeatedly moves a foot outward (in a formation of L with one foot toward you and right), you can be sure you want time standing or desires were elsewhere. This foot type behavior is another example of a signal of intent (Givens, 2005, 60-61). The torso of the person who can resist research on social care, but the legs can reflect more honestly need the limbic brain or the desire to escape.
On the other hand, legs crossed, especially when standing, is a relatively strong indicator that a person is interested in staying where they are. This is related very deeply into our survival instinct. While we can claim a good time, crossing his legs, it makes it harder to escape from danger. Although we know that there is an immediate physical danger at a social gathering we want to leave our brains to continue to meet discomfort in the same way: by preparing here.
The importance of basic
More than any other piece of body language is important to establish a baseline. Each has its own peculiarities, customs, and peculiarities. A shy person can keep the lower arm closer to his body and his head on a more sociable default (which is part of the reason why an introvert can be interpreted as being upset or confrontation). Any behavior by itself is not necessarily an indication of a change of mood. However, as you get to know a person and how they behave in normal situations, abnormal behavior may give more indication of how they feel. Do not see a foot or bounce head high. Keep an eye on when such behavior is unusual.
More importantly, however, use the signals available for you to measure the levels of comfort and be aware of what the person reacts. Often it is necessary to conduct a profound line of questions to find out what is really in the mind of a person. If they make grimaces when a particular song comes when another happily, it’s a pretty safe bet that the song was the cause.